{"id":156,"date":"2019-07-03T02:46:05","date_gmt":"2019-07-03T02:46:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theophanesavery.com\/an-authors-journey\/?p=156"},"modified":"2019-07-03T02:46:05","modified_gmt":"2019-07-03T02:46:05","slug":"that-moment-people-in-your-memoir-realize-theyre-in-your-memoir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theophanesavery.com\/an-authors-journey\/2019\/07\/03\/that-moment-people-in-your-memoir-realize-theyre-in-your-memoir\/","title":{"rendered":"That Moment People in Your Memoir Realize They’re in Your Memoir…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Well! It’s been a hellish couple of months. I have not gotten nearly as much writing as I’d like in and promoting my writing? HA! What a quaint idea! So imagine my surprise when someone actually bought my book. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

“WOW. I sold something to a stranger without begging or meeting them…” I was so proud. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I had no idea that it wasn’t a stranger. In fact it was someone that was in the book whom I did not tell. Why? Pretty much because I had worried since publishing it that she’d take it badly. I in no way wanted to hurt anyone’s feelings or demonize anyone but I had to write my lived experience as if I were living them – in other words my descriptions of her evolved with my story from light-hearted and happy, to fucked up, and then it wandered back to a place of understanding. I honestly expected a firestorm… I’d heard all sorts of horror stories about how things can go bad when you publish a memoir. Hell, I’ve heard accounts of writers writing fictional stories of their home town that they get 50 years of shit for. So I didn’t tell her. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

She still found out. And e-mailed me…. but it was a near obsolete e-mail so I didn’t receive it until a full month later. That didn’t help matters. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So what happened? Well you might be surprised but…. nothing. If she was upset she didn’t say so. She did want to know what I thought of her now but that’s only fair. If anything I hope reading the account of our shared trauma may have been healing in some way. It was for me. As for what lies in the future? I don’t know but I’m going to keep pushing forward. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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